Word of The Week:Pride

Pride is defined as a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements, the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated, or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired. It’s also known as a group of lions forming a social unit. (As a Leo I had to throw that last definition in there.)
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When I proposed to my wife in 2009 we were living in Oklahoma. At the time there was a ban on same sex marriage and the state did not recognize out of state marriages, partnerships or civil unions between those of the same sex. However all opposite sex marriages were recognized. Despite that, we entered into a domestic partnership in the state of Nevada. When we moved to Chicago in 2013, same sex marriage wasn’t granted but they did offer civil unions so down to the court house we went. But when my wife showed up at the HR department at her federal job she was told, “you have to be real married” to add a spouse to your medical insurance. On the contrary marriage, partnerships, unions and even common law marriage are recognized among opposite sex couples.  At this point I was beginning to get angry because I was sick, living in a new state, with a new job and without medical insurance for the first time in my life. I did my home work and found out Iowa was the closest place we could go for a marriage license but I couldn’t take off work until I completed my 90 day probationary period. So we did the only thing we could do, we waited.  But when the time came we had to cancel the appointment. Due to a government shut down my wife couldn’t take previously approved leave. During a shut down she is required to work without pay or be considered AWOL, so we waited some more and barely scraped by on my income. Once the shut down ended, we hit the road and said vows and signed paper work for the third time.  Slowly but surely states loosen up its grip on civil rights and begin to allow people to legitimize their family through marriage regardless of gender.10671348_304374043099011_4226338626737540161_n

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Each person who makes the decision to live their life out loud shapes the world’s perception of what it means to be LGBTQ (lesbian/gay/transgender/queer & questioning) Let’s take a look and who lived out loud this past year.

 

MEMBERS OF THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY ARE MORE VISIBLE THAN EVER

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I cried when I saw Nicollete (a fellow fashion blogger) marry the love of her life surrounded by supportive people. I was happy for her and jealous for myself. It was a very overwhelming feeling.18103566626_dc53e7b755_bEllen DeGeneres & Portia DeGeneres247E285F00000578-2901413-Glamazon_Portia_also_sported_a_pair_of_edgy_Jacqui_Aiche_earring-m-72_1420687695066

Neil Patrick Harris & David Burtka

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Wanda Sykes & Alex SykesatteActress Wanda Sykes and guest arrive at the 21st Annual GLAAD Media Awards held at Hyatt Regency Century Plaza Hotel on April 17, 2010 in Los Angeles, California. 21st Annual GLAAD Media Awards - Red Carpet Hyatt Regency Century Plaza Hotel Los Angeles, CA United States April 17, 2010 Photo by Michael Caulfield/WireImage.com To license this image (60188013), contact WireImage.com

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WITH LOVE,

Dāsha

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